Most relationships have secrets that the rest of the world does not know about. It can be embarrassing to talk about certain things, so you might want to keep all of these secrets inside. However, in order for your divorce lawyer to represent you in the best way possible, he or she needs to know about certain things.
If you or your spouse -- or both cheated -- you might be feeling feelings of remorse, betrayal or just plain embarrassment. However, if you were the one who cheated, it's probably going to come up in the divorce; this means your attorney should know about it to prepare for it and properly defend you. If your spouse was the one who cheated, it might affect things like alimony that you might qualify for or could affect the conditions of your pre-nuptial agreement.
2. Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a very sensitive issue, but your divorce lawyer needs to know about it. If you were abused, for example, your lawyer might need to take certain steps to keep you safe, such as filing a restraining order.
3. Substance Abuse Issues
If you or your spouse has ever abused alcohol or drugs in the past, these things could be brought up in court and could affect the custody of the children who you have together or could affect the division of assets, such as if one spouse spent a lot of assets on drugs.
As you can see, it's best to let your lawyer know all of you and your spouse's secrets. If you contact us at Kovacs Law Office, however, we can help you handle your divorce as discreetly and comfortably as possible.